Lonely Working Distributed

Recently I wrote about having connections with my distributed team. Part of that was because people have assumed it must be lonely working from home without seeing people. It’s been rare that I’ve ever felt this way much because of my team but also because I have a great network of family and friends I can do things with and have conversations with outside of work.

Listening yesterday to the Distributed podcast episode with Leo Widrich, they talked some about loneliness. His recommendation was basically what I have, strong work relationships and a good support network at home. Overall the episode was really good and has given me more to think about.

Leo talked about dealing with stresses and how they build up over time. We all have ways to deal with it through auto-regulation like my go to: eating. Instead we need to deal with it through self-regulation. Having a partner or group you can talk with can help the process. This is something I need to look into more and do a better job at dealing instead of distracting myself or eating.

Lately I’ve been going through some stresses again and need to work through them, but also be a better partner for those involved in these with me and be sure I’m there to hear them and help them.

Each of these Distributed podcast episodes have been good so far, but this one has been my favourite and given me things to learn more on. I recommend giving it a listen.

Strange Feeling

Have you ever been in a crowded room and felt all alone? I’ve had that feeling a few times over the past week even though I’ve been surrounded by awesome people. 

The feelings came mostly in the beginning and now closer to the end of our company meetup. 

To me it means a few things. The first is that I’m more of an introvert than I even thought I was. Next, drinking and partying late into the night isn’t who I am anymore, I just don’t fit in, likely because of the introversion. Time to stop pretending that’s who I am I guess. 

The last and probably biggest reason is that I’m away from my family who I love and miss very much. As much as for the most part I’ve loved this week, I’m really looking forward to getting home to them soon.